Sexuality is a term used to describe a whole range of feelings, desires and actions relating to sex.

During puberty we become more aware of who we are attracted to, why and what other people will think about the people we fancy. This can be worrying enough if the person you have a crush on is actually the guy none of your mates would ever talk to!! But, what if it is one of your mates who happens to be the same sex as you? What happens then?

Experiencing feelings for people of the same sex can be a normal part of growing up; for example, getting a crush on one of your teachers can be a very intense and possibly scary feeling but does not necessarily mean you are gay. Some people have these feelings and go on to realise that they are gay, whilst some people find that these change over time and that they develop feelings for the opposite sex, also known as straight. There are other people who will continue to have feelings for both men and women and have relationships with both, known as bisexual.

There is no definite age when a person will know that they are gay, straight or bisexual, it happens to us all at different times and with different experiences.

Once you have identified your sexuality as gay, bisexual or lesbian, you have to go through the process of telling other people about it. This is commonly known as “Coming Out”. Many young lesbian and gay people experience critical times when they have to decide who to tell about their sexuality. In making this disclosure they are often fearful of negative reactions, rejection and causing upset and distress to the person they are telling. Sometimes a young person may try 'coming out' to a supportive teacher, Connexions worker or a school friend, as a precursor to talking to parents in order to rehearse their own part and to see how people react.

To find out more about your sexuality or to talk to someone who understands, contact us:

Kendal and South Lakes LGBTQ group “The Group with No Name” meets in Kendal alternate Thursdays.  Contact Julia for details 07725678969 julia.gregory@connexionscumbria.co.uk.

In Penrith & the Eden Valley:
Helen Hamilton
edenlgbt@connexionscumbria.co.uk
07795 977526

PiNC (Pride in North Cumbria)
pinc-carlisle@hotmail.co.uk
07743 266317